Learning The Hard Way

I remember the inspiration

For this one

It was based on

A session I’d had

With a particularly

Shitty therapist

Back when I

Was clinically mad

He said my struggles

Were my own fault

And to get better

I ‘must try harder’

Yet I was the one

Who apologised to him

Like I was forced to

With my father

I’ve realised since

That I’d been conditioned

To seek out

The approval of men

To say sorry

For my shortcomings

To promise never

To do it again

But I

Am getting older now

And I can feel

The strength in myself

So all those men

Who have fucked me over

Can go and rot

In hell


Must Try Harder

You must try harder, he says

Harder to smile

Harder to laugh

Harder to forgive

Harder to forget

Harder to live again

Harder to love again

You must try harder, he says

I can’t, she whispers

I’m sorry

(Originally Posted 24.03.2019)

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  1. I feel this one so deeply-the amount of times I said sorry my life! I’m in my 40s now and I don’t apologize anymore unless it’s deserved.
    The try harder statements-ugh! When I was in a deep depression I heard these exact words from many well-meaning people.

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  2. No shortage of people out there ready to prey on people at their lowest 😓😓. Ironically because of people like that through their efforts to shrug us off we can feel FORCED to try to go it alone as they are effectively telling us to. Which is fucked. 💙

    I have a particular distrust of men in these situations unfortunately.

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